Hi, Simple Eats readers! My name is Parita, and I blog over at myinnershakti. I’m honored to have the opportunity to guest blog for Alexa as I absolutely adore her and her blog! The best thing about it is that I ALWAYS walk away with a smile on my face.
My blog is really about a hodgepodge of all the different things that are important to me – exercise, food, travel, my fiancé, my family and friends…simply put, life! One day, I’ll blog about a newfound recipe and the next day I’ll write about my upcoming wedding. I love to keep my readers guessing!
Today, I’d like to talk about something that I’ve pretty much struggled with my whole life, and that is the concept of change. I can honestly assert I’ve gotten better at dealing with change and ambiguity, but as I like to say, “I’m a work in progress.” Over the past few years, my life has changed (for the better), and even though I was resistant and incredibly scared at first, each change has made me a stronger person. And the best part is that with time, I’ve learned a few tricks and tips for dealing with changes – both expected and unexpected. So, let’s get started…
1. Change your mindset
If you’re anything like me, you love to make plans and stick to them. You also hold people accountable to the same standards you hold yourself to – very high standards.
This is both good and bad. It’s good because people see you as dependable, responsible, and organized. The flip side of all this is that you can be seen as very inflexible, unyielding, and stubborn. In my previous life, my plans had no room for variable activity, and if anything came between me and my end goal, my reaction was always an emotional one. Over time, my mindset started taking a toll on me, my friendships, and my relationship. I realized that having goals was awesome, but in the end, if I was going to be the only one at the finish line, what’s the point.
My biggest lessons learned were that that you have to plan for the unexpected and you have to view life as constantly moving parts, not one static blob. For someone like me, this means taking into account the most important people in my life, slowing down and enjoying the present moment, and understanding that there are things in life that are not in my control so why worry. My mindset really helps me live one day at a time, and for that, I’m very grateful! And again, I’m not 100% there yet, but I’m trying very hard!
2. Purposely put yourself in a change situation
The best example of this from my personal life is my decision to take a job with my current company after graduating from business school. See, this isn’t any old job. This job requires me to move three times in two years. And while I have some say in where I go, the ultimate decision is not mine. But, this was a once in a lifetime opportunity, and I just couldn’t say no.
See, upon entering graduate school, my mind was made up – no matter what I was going to find a job in Atlanta after graduation. And for a while, no one could change my mind about that decision. Well, things drastically changed when I interned with my current company and was a offered a full-time position at the end.
Now, I had major decisions to make. I knew that by taking the offer, I would be moving three times (all by myself), I would have to forge relationships with a whole new set of coworkers three times, and I would also have to learn a whole new job three times. I almost chickened out of the whole thing. But after talking to Vishnu (my fiancé) and my parents, I decided to take the plunge and go for it. I knew in my heart that in the end I would be a better professional because of this experience and a better person too. And truth be told, even though I was very uncomfortable with all the change that was about to hit me all at once, I’m SO glad I said “yes.” So, far I’ve been able to experience two wonderful cities (Tucson and Boston), and I’ve gotten to know so many wonderful people that otherwise would never have entered my life. In one word…amazing!
3. Post motivating quotes about change on your refrigerator, your bathroom mirror, and/or your office cubicle
I swear by this! Sometimes just reading a powerful quote can turn my day around and remind me of how far I’ve come. Here are a few of my favorites…
“The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing that you will make one.” — Elbert Hubbard
“Life should not be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, chocolate in one hand, body thoroughly used up, totally worn out and screaming “woo hoo – what a ride!” – Anonymous
“The only thing constant in life is change” – François de la Rochefoucauld
Well, there you have it – my three big strategies for dealing with change. It’s easier said then done, but trust me, a little change every now and then never hurt anyone! Life is far too short to remain complacent and comfortable.
Thanks so much for reading, and thanks, Alexa, for giving me the opportunity to be a part of Simple Eats! If you want to learn more about me and my crazy antics, feel free to stop on by and say hello!!!